There is often more to people than we realise. Someone recently said this to me after reading my first two posts...it got me to thinking.
Who do you let in? Who sees the REAL you? I am quite guarded with people initially, but barriers come down slowly, with certain people.
There are sides to me that even my oldest friends have never seen. Lifelong friends, who I would trust my life with, but not my most inner thoughts. Yet someone I have never met and have only ever spoken to via the wonderful world of online networking, can know my intimate thoughts and feelings. This is something that is troubling me. Am I like the proverbial onion? Who gets to peel back the layers and who doesn't? Is it a sub-conscious decision that I make or is it some unexplained connection? Is there something key that triggers the opening?
Answer me this.....how many people REALLY know the real you? Do you know the real you? Is it a personal journey with ourselves that never ends? Or should we all know EXACTLY who we are?
I continue to surprise myself. My attitudes, my thought processes and my opinions on myself are forever changing. Is this life's way of keeping us on our toes? Or ourselves continuing a search for an answer that perhaps is unanswerable. Is there a definition to 'you'?
And as for my body? Well...that is a totally different story. My mind is young. Still thirsting for new experiences, yet my body says 'no' much more often. My body is getting old!! It is screaming at me every morning and evening to 'stop with the abuse'. It cramps, it strains, tensions appear, it grows hair where there never used to be hair!! WRINKLES appear!!! Does my body not connect with my young and thirsty mind? Does it not realise that it has to withstand the continuing and constant desire for new things? Is there a way I can communicate this information and come to some kind of agreement? All of this has to be achieved, but with as little 'exercise' as possible.
That word makes me shudder....exercise. It should be banned. Outlawed!
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ReplyDeleteVery deep and meaningful blog, entering into the world of friendship, relationships, loyalty and trust.
ReplyDeleteThis is my opinion, and an amateurish one at that, but here goes…
Friendships develop over time and a trust is formed, but however as the friendship grows so does the boundaries of what can and can't be shared. All too often there will be subjects that are taboo between friends because, through the history of the friendship, you know that the subject will offend or be upsetting.
Internet friendships often break this mould, especially at the start. I think this is down to the fact you can treat this type of relationship as confessional, I will try to explain…
In the case of the internet a common interest is normally the draw, either forums or social networks, and this is the starting point of most interaction. From this interaction
Topics will become more varied and more and more information is shared. At this point, usually, there is still no physical or emotional contact, and is still easy to ‘break off’ contact if so desired. As the contact grows, and the ‘comfort’ sets in, the information level and context may also increase and as the safety of removing contact is still there you can reveal information that you would not tell even your closest ‘physical’ friends.
I see this stage as confessional, and compare it to a church confession box.
As the internet relationship grows and the level of information grows, this is when emotions can become involved. This will change the relationship dramatically and hence as feelings become involved, the boundaries will start to form.